No guest! Only Hecate!
Aug. 3, 2022

Assaulted and Stalked Abroad - A Personal Story

In 2006 I was assaulted and stalked by a monk in India. In this episode I share my journal entries recording this experience and …

Episode page
July 6, 2022

This Was Slightly Less On Fire When I Left...

We're back! In this episode I'll be sharing what I've been up to on my break, what I have planned for this season of the podcast,…

Episode page
Feb. 24, 2022

Gratitude and Updates

This is the last episode of Season 3! Today I'll be taking some time to thank everyone who made this season possible, updating yo…

Episode page
Feb. 2, 2022

Letters for the Fire

Earlier in Season 3 I invited listeners to participate in a project called Letters for the Fire. It was an invitation for communa…

Episode page
Jan. 21, 2022

The Assault I Don't Discuss - A Personal Story

In this episode I share my experience of anal rape, discuss the dangerous myth that boys/men/AMAB people can't control themselves…

Episode page
Nov. 17, 2021

Death and Rebirth Cycles - Shedding Your Skin

We all experience Death/Rebirth Cycles in our lives, periods of profound transformation and growth. These cycles are often painfu…

Episode page
Sept. 2, 2021

Coercion Isn't Consent - A Personal Story

This is a personal and raw episode where I share the story of one of my assaults. Coercion isn't consent. Two Hundred "No's" and …

Episode page
July 7, 2021

Letters for the Fire - An Invitation

Letters for the Fire is an invitation for survivors to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and send it to me. It is one of t…

Episode page
May 26, 2021

Thank You! - Season 3

Welcome to Season 3! In today's episode I thank everyone who has made Finding OK possible, I share what I got up to on my break, …

Episode page
March 3, 2021

Taking Care of Myself - An Update

Finding OK will be finishing Season 2 at the end of this month and I will be taking a break before returning with Season 3 in lat…

Episode page
Jan. 21, 2021

In Witch I Curse a Man on a Bus

In this episode I share a personal story of freezing during an assault and talk about forgiving ourselves for moments we weren't …

Episode page
Dec. 31, 2020

The Importance of Awe

The experience of awe is a rarely discussed but incredibly powerful part of growth and healing. In this episode I discuss the ben…

Episode page
Dec. 2, 2020

Rich Inner Worlds

In this episode I discuss the importance of creating and nurturing a rich inner life. I open up about how my own inner world as a…

Episode page
Nov. 11, 2020


In this episode I talk about why it's so important to find a way to release tension after prolonged periods of stress, and then I…

Episode page
Nov. 5, 2020

Crossroads Self-Care

This is a support and self-care episode for the 2020 Election. For survivors this is a time of extreme anxiety, triggers, and sym…

Episode page