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Sept. 23, 2020

DeSha - Part 3

DeSha - Part 3
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DeSha speaks very openly about her experiences with abortion. Now the mother of a wonderful child DeSha opens up about the difficult decisions she made on her path to parenthood while in a covertly abusive relationship and struggling with health issues. 

TW/CW: Abortion, descriptions of procedures, abusive relationships, trauma, sex, addiction, and substances.

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DeSha is an editorial & lifestyle photographer, and a loving partner and mother.

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