Finding OK
An intersectional healing podcast for survivors of sexual assault and any/all abuse. When survivors share, they share strength. "Finding OK" helps people navigate this difficult healing process. The focus is on recovery, self-care, empowerment, and healing. You are not alone.
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Assaulted and Stalked Abroad - A Personal Story
In 2006 I was assaulted and stalked by a monk in India. In this episode I share my journal entries recording this experience and …
This Was Slightly Less On Fire When I Left...
We're back! In this episode I'll be sharing what I've been up to on my break, what I have planned for this season of the podcast,…
Letters for the Fire
Earlier in Season 3 I invited listeners to participate in a project called Letters for the Fire. It was an invitation for communa…
The Assault I Don't Discuss - A Personal Story
In this episode I share my experience of anal rape, discuss the dangerous myth that boys/men/AMAB people can't control themselves…
Healing After Military Sexual Assault
Vanessa is a veteran and a survivor of sexual assault within the military. Vanessa shares her story of trauma, her feelings of sh…
Cult Recovery - Healing After NXIVM
Kelly Thiel exited the notorious NXIVM cult and shares her journey with healing and deprogramming in the aftermath of indoctrinat…
Thriving After Sexual Abuse
Denise Bossarte is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and now she is helping others heal. Join us for a conversation about Den…
Deconstructing Religious Abuse
Anna grew up in a fundamentalist Christian family as part of the Quiverfull movement. She and her six siblings were not allowed t…
Coercion Isn't Consent - A Personal Story
This is a personal and raw episode where I share the story of one of my assaults. Coercion isn't consent. Two Hundred "No's" and …
Rise Above Your Story
Join me for a beautiful talk with Sandra Cooze. Sandra is an intuitive mentor and coach, spiritual advisor, advanced soul realign…
Travel Can Heal
Jackie Roby shares her healing journey and the work she does in the world with healing and wellness travel. Jackie and I discuss …
Inspired By U
Santéresa shares her story of trauma and healing, her experience reporting rape and going through the justice system, and she dis…
The Way We Judge Ourselves In Quarantine
Eliot returns to the show to chat with me about various ways that the pandemic is affecting us. While chatting the other day we d…
Healing the Survivors
Jacquelyn Weis is the author of, "Healing the Survivors - 8 Steps to Whole-Self Healing". She is a member of the Northwestern Ban…
Shadow Work - a Samhain Episode
As the days grow shorter and the shadows lengthen many of us turn inward and sometimes struggle with some of the things we find i…
Stop Sh*tting On Yourself You Beautiful B*tch
This episode takes a look at the negativity we can direct at ourselves, the false beliefs about ourselves that our abusers can le…
Jury Duty
My sister Chie and I discuss most survivor's worst case senario heading into jury duty: being interviewed for a sexual assault ca…
DeSha - Part 1
DeSha shares how EMDR therapy has changed her life, what sessions are like, and offers advice for anyone interested in trying it …
Healing Affirmations ~ Season 2
Welcome to Season 2 ! In this episode I revisit the Healing Affirmations that started the podcast in Season 1 and I introduce som…
Recent Episodes
Assaulted and Stalked Abroad - A Personal Story
Aug. 3, 2022
In 2006 I was assaulted and stalked by a monk in India. In this episode I share my journal entries recording this experience and then discuss the ways this trauma has affected my life. I discuss the intersecting issues of ra…
Then and Now
July 19, 2022
In this episode my friend Sage and I listen to audio we recorded two years ago during lockdown and reflect on it. We talk about (and feel our way through) some of the very intense systemic issues we're facing in America and …
This Was Slightly Less On Fire When I Left...
July 6, 2022
We're back! In this episode I'll be sharing what I've been up to on my break, what I have planned for this season of the podcast, and I'll be talking about a really rough day I had last week in the wake of Roe vs Wade being …
Gratitude and Updates
Feb. 24, 2022
This is the last episode of Season 3! Today I'll be taking some time to thank everyone who made this season possible, updating you about my plans and exciting new content during my break, as well as letting you know about so…
Letters for the Fire
Feb. 2, 2022
Earlier in Season 3 I invited listeners to participate in a project called Letters for the Fire. It was an invitation for communal catharsis and healing. I invited listeners to write a letter to their rapist or abuser, and I…
The Assault I Don't Discuss - A Personal Story
Jan. 21, 2022
In this episode I share my experience of anal rape, discuss the dangerous myth that boys/men/AMAB people can't control themselves, discuss consent, and talk about some of the reasons why it was so difficult for me to identif…
Recent Blog Posts
letters for the fire
Letters for the Fire is a listener participation project. I am inviting survivors to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and then send it to me.
Giveaway!
Finding OK is having its very first GIVEAWAY! The winner will receive a personalized, signed copy of Denise Bossarte's beautiful book, "Thriving After Se…
Letters for the Fire
This is a listener participation project that will be available during Season 3. I am inviting survivors to write a letter to their r*pist or abuser and …