Finding OK
An intersectional healing podcast for survivors of sexual assault and any/all abuse. When survivors share, they share strength. "Finding OK" helps people navigate this difficult healing process. The focus is on recovery, self-care, empowerment, and healing. You are not alone.
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The Assault I Don't Discuss - A Personal Story
In this episode I share my experience of anal rape, discuss the dangerous myth that boys/men/AMAB people can't control themselves…
Healing After Military Sexual Assault
Vanessa is a veteran and a survivor of sexual assault within the military. Vanessa shares her story of trauma, her feelings of sh…
Cult Recovery - Healing After NXIVM
Kelly Thiel exited the notorious NXIVM cult and shares her journey with healing and deprogramming in the aftermath of indoctrinat…
Thriving After Sexual Abuse
Denise Bossarte is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and now she is helping others heal. Join us for a conversation about Den…
Deconstructing Religious Abuse
Anna grew up in a fundamentalist Christian family as part of the Quiverfull movement. She and her six siblings were not allowed t…
Coercion Isn't Consent - A Personal Story
This is a personal and raw episode where I share the story of one of my assaults. Coercion isn't consent. Two Hundred "No's" and …
Rise Above Your Story
Join me for a beautiful talk with Sandra Cooze. Sandra is an intuitive mentor and coach, spiritual advisor, advanced soul realign…
Letters for the Fire - An Invitation
Letters for the Fire is an invitation for survivors to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and send it to me. It is one of t…
Healing in the Wake of Addiction
NJ Lechnir joins me to discuss his book, "Addiction, Loss and Recovery: How to Deeply Understand the Mindset of Addictive Behavio…
Travel Can Heal
Jackie Roby shares her healing journey and the work she does in the world with healing and wellness travel. Jackie and I discuss …
Inspired By U
Santéresa shares her story of trauma and healing, her experience reporting rape and going through the justice system, and she dis…
The Way We Judge Ourselves In Quarantine
Eliot returns to the show to chat with me about various ways that the pandemic is affecting us. While chatting the other day we d…
Healing the Survivors
Jacquelyn Weis is the author of, "Healing the Survivors - 8 Steps to Whole-Self Healing". She is a member of the Northwestern Ban…
Restorative Justice - Radical Imagining - Part 1
Lily Sage and I discuss the ways that our current punitive judicial system fails all of us, especially the marginalized and survi…
Shadow Work - a Samhain Episode
As the days grow shorter and the shadows lengthen many of us turn inward and sometimes struggle with some of the things we find i…
Stop Sh*tting On Yourself You Beautiful B*tch
This episode takes a look at the negativity we can direct at ourselves, the false beliefs about ourselves that our abusers can le…
Jury Duty
My sister Chie and I discuss most survivor's worst case senario heading into jury duty: being interviewed for a sexual assault ca…
DeSha - Part 1
DeSha shares how EMDR therapy has changed her life, what sessions are like, and offers advice for anyone interested in trying it …
Healing Affirmations ~ Season 2
Welcome to Season 2 ! In this episode I revisit the Healing Affirmations that started the podcast in Season 1 and I introduce som…
Olfactory Memory and PTSD
How your sense of smell is tied to memory and how this can affect PTSD symptoms. TW/CW: A non explicit personal experience of a P…
Recent Episodes
The Assault I Don't Discuss - A Personal Story
Jan. 21, 2022
In this episode I share my experience of anal rape, discuss the dangerous myth that boys/men/AMAB people can't control themselves, discuss consent, and talk about some of the reasons why it was so difficult for me to identif…
Healing After Military Sexual Assault
Jan. 5, 2022
Vanessa is a veteran and a survivor of sexual assault within the military. Vanessa shares her story of trauma, her feelings of shame and lack of self-worth, and her spiral into depression which nearly ended in suicide. She f…
Cult Recovery - Healing After NXIVM
Dec. 22, 2021
Kelly Thiel exited the notorious NXIVM cult and shares her journey with healing and deprogramming in the aftermath of indoctrination. She has taken her power back and is helping others to do the same. Kelly is an accomplishe…
Thriving After Sexual Abuse
Dec. 8, 2021
Denise Bossarte is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and now she is helping others heal. Join us for a conversation about Denise's healing journey as well as her beautiful book, "Thriving After Sexual Abuse: Break Your B…
Deconstructing Religious Abuse
Nov. 24, 2021
Anna grew up in a fundamentalist Christian family as part of the Quiverfull movement. She and her six siblings were not allowed to attend school and were very isolated from the outside world. Everything about her childhood w…
Death and Rebirth Cycles - Shedding Your Skin
Nov. 17, 2021
We all experience Death/Rebirth Cycles in our lives, periods of profound transformation and growth. These cycles are often painful and difficult. In this episode I share something that has helped me to better keep my balance…
Recent Blog Posts
Giveaway!
Finding OK is having its very first GIVEAWAY! The winner will receive a personalized, signed copy of Denise Bossarte's beautiful book, "Thriving After Se…
Letters for the Fire
This is a listener participation project that will be available during Season 3. I am inviting survivors to write a letter to their r*pist or abuser and …
Stay Tuned for the Finding OK Blog!
I've thought a lot about it and I want to face my fears and begin sharing more writing with the world. All the reasons I don't are rooted in fear and tra…