Episodes

Jackie Roby shares her healing journey and the work she does in the world with healing and wellness travel. Jackie and I discuss the importance of asking for help, showing up authentically in personal and professional spaces, secret keeping and communication in families, healing from childhood sexual abuse, diversity, and anti-racism work. She shares how healing and wellness travel has transformed her life and helped her heal and release shame. Jackie is a speaker, podcaster, writer, solution st...

Santéresa shares her story of trauma and healing, her experience reporting rape and going through the justice system, and she discusses her beautiful book, "Releasing My Secret: A 30 Day Devotional to Support Your Healing Process". She talks about her work at the Rape Crisis Center and how she created Inspired By U to help people become their full and whole selves. She also shares the importance of faith in her life and her healing journey. Santéresa Wilson is the CEO of Inspired By U, LLC, she ...

Eliot returns to the show to chat with me about various ways that the pandemic is affecting us. While chatting the other day we discovered each of us was putting the other up on a pedestal as a person who had been "productive" during the pandemic, and then devaluing our own accomplishments. We talk about video games, virtual community, social issues, mental health, productivity, neurodivergence, burnout, self-care, art school, sleep hygiene, and valuing yourself and your unique contributions. La...

Terri Kozlowski joins me to discuss her new book, "Raven Transcending Fear". Terri is a writer, educator, leader, artist, life coach, podcaster, blogger, and a proud Native American of the Athabaskan, Gwich'in Tribe - Raven Clan. Terri is a survivor of childhood sexual assault and trauma. She shares her healing journey, her reclamation of authentic self, her decision to be a survivor rather than a victim, her daily personal practice, and her decision to choose love over fear. Tw/Cw: Sexual assa...

Finding OK will be finishing Season 2 at the end of this month and I will be taking a break before returning with Season 3 in late May! There are lots of new and exciting things happening with the podcast and new ways you can connect with me! Finding OK is now the #1 Mental Health Podcast in Jamaica! Support the show

Cailin returns to share new aspects of their healing journey! Cailin has started Equine Therapy and we also discuss the important role that Yoga plays in their life and healing. Join us for a conversation about somatic alternatives or additions to talk therapy. Support the show

Jacquelyn Weis is the author of, "Healing the Survivors - 8 Steps to Whole-Self Healing". She is a member of the Northwestern Band Shoshone Nation, a Certified Emotion Code Practitioner, Body Code Practitioner, T3 Therapist, Native Herbalist, Native Holistic Healer, mother, and wife. Jacquelyn shares how strong women, community support, cultural practices, and holistic healing modalities saved her life and helped her heal after her traumas. We discuss generational/ancestral trauma, the Missing a...

Lily Sage and I discuss the ways that our current punitive judicial system fails all of us, especially the marginalized and survivors of sexual assault, and we discuss Restorative Justice as a potential alternative. Lily and I continue our discussion about Restorative Justice, what it is, what it has to offer, how it challenges us, and some of the issues and obstacles to implementing some form of it in our society. Land Acknowledgement - Lily is joining us from O'gah'Pog'eh or White Shell Place,...

Lily Sage and I discuss the ways that our current punitive judicial system fails all of us, especially the marginalized and survivors of sexual assault, and we discuss Restorative Justice as a potential alternative. Lily discusses a paper she wrote before the Me Too movement and how many of the concepts and ideas that were groundbreaking a decade ago are now much more a part of our evolving social consciousness. She shares her personal introduction to Restorative Justice, what it is, what it has...

Janitta Nichols is a speaker, writer, and the author of, "The Secrets of My Mother - Breaking Free from Generational Curses and Trauma". Janitta is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and she shares her healing process. Janitta left her career as a police officer behind to speak her truth. She is breaking the cycle for her family with faith, love, courage, and forgiveness. Tw/Cw: Trauma, PTSD, abuse, childhood sexual abuse, substances and addiction, depression, suicide, religion, spirituality,...

In this episode I share a personal story of freezing during an assault and talk about forgiving ourselves for moments we weren't able to respond as we might have wished. I share a little bit about traveling in India and some of the safety measures I have taken over the years during my time there. I also share a personal practice that is a part of my own healing journey. Gulabi Gang - These women give me life https://gulabigang.in/ Chappal Marungi - Movement to combat "Eve Teasing" or Cat calli...

Lisa David Olson is a speaker, creative coach, podcaster, comedian, and the author of the book, "Laughs On Wry - An Improviser's Memoir". Lisa loves connecting with people through humor, laughing, pranking, being brave, hot yoga, coffee, and embarrassing her kids. She is always on the lookout for more of her favorite people: weirdos. Tw/Cw: Trauma, abuse, child abuse, PTSD, alcoholism, substances, death, weight, and the pandemic. Website http://www.lisadavidolson.com/ Laughs on Wry - An Impro...

Bailee Noella is the author of "bathtub in flames" and creator of Cyno Apparel, the streetwear line taking shame out of mental health conditions. Join me as I talk to her about her writing process and her healing process. Tw/Cw: Trauma, abuse, childhood sexual assault, OCD, PTSD, substances, the pandemic, racism and sexism in Medicine, and spirituality. bathtub in flames: https://www.amazon.com/bathtub-flames-Bailee-Noella-ebook/dp/B08Q8HJ8TD/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=bathtub+in+flames+bail...

The experience of awe is a rarely discussed but incredibly powerful part of growth and healing. In this episode I discuss the benefits of awe, I torture some metaphors, give you some ideas of how to seek out awe in your daily life, and share some of my most memorable experiences of awe that transformed my life or stuck with me over the years. Tw/Cw: Trauma, abuse, PTSD, spirituality, and a metaphor involving hypothermia Articles and research on awe: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/it...

Kim and I talk movies and have some laughs. In this episode we cover some more movies with strong women. I talk about a movie I hate and that you should never under any circumstances watch, and Kim introduces me to the movie trope, "Born Sexy Yesterday". Born Sexy Yesterday https://youtu.be/0thpEyEwi80 Support the show

In this episode Kim and I touch on some darker subject matter. I discuss my experiences with a human cadaver lab, responding as a bystander in a medical emergency, and using my words to escape an abuser. We also talk about how people respond to crisis and nerd it up briefly with Star Trek. Please pay attention to the content warnings, this episode is not for everyone! Tw/Cw: Death, human anatomy, blood, a story of a medical emergency, trauma, situations of trauma, molestation, stalking, and a s...

In this episode I discuss the importance of creating and nurturing a rich inner life. I open up about how my own inner world as a child saved my life and use this example to help explain how mindful cultivation of inner landscapes of beauty and hope can be an essential and potentially lifesaving tool during times of prolonged stress and crisis. Tw/Cw: Child abuse, trauma, PTSD, stress, chronic illness, suicidal ideation, the pandemic, horror movie senarios used briefly in jest. Hierarchy of Ne...

Kim and I discuss some of our experiences with lucid dreaming and share some tips that might help you. I share my struggle with nightmares in the past and a revelation in therapy that gave me insight into a reoccurring theme. Tw/Cw: PTSD, trauma, substances, nightmares, death, decay, brief mention of psych ward Support the show

Kim is an Audio Engineer, a talented musician, a pansexual trans woman, and the Queen of Memes. She loves black clothing, intense movies, video games, the NBA, and making her friends laugh. She loves her coffee sweet and her candy sour. Join us while we talk about some of the movies we love and the strong women in them that fascinate and inspire us. Tw/Cw: Substances, PTSD, trauma, abuse, domestic violence, and potential movie spoilers. Support the show

In this episode I talk about why it's so important to find a way to release tension after prolonged periods of stress, and then I discuss our growing use of the word"toxic" to describe people and relationships and how it might be clouding our ability to identify and call out abuse. Tw/Cw: PTSD, abuse, and domestic violence. Article https://cerebral-sexuality.com/2018/07/31/toxic-relationships-vs-abusive-relationships/ Why Does He Do That - Book https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/224552.Why_D...

This is a support and self-care episode for the 2020 Election. For survivors this is a time of extreme anxiety, triggers, and symptom flare-ups. It is ok to not be ok! That said, lets talk self-care. At the end I share one of my favorite Buddhist mantras and lead you in some deep, healing breaths. Medicine Buddha Traditional https://www.google.com/search?q=tibetan+thangka+medicine+buddha&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwjj-Yv4sersAhXLT98KHbHXBT0Q2-cCegQIABAA&oq=tibetan+thangka+medicine+buddha&gs_lcp=CgNpbWc...

As the days grow shorter and the shadows lengthen many of us turn inward and sometimes struggle with some of the things we find in our own inner worlds. Eliot joins me in this special Samhain/Halloween episode to discuss shadow work and the dark parts of ourselves, meeting the challenges of this time of year, and to just have fun and shoot the shit about horror movies. Blessed Samhain, Happy Halloween, and Happy Dias de Los Muertos! Tw/Cw: Seasonal depression, anxiety, PTSD, suicide, death, spi...

This episode takes a look at the negativity we can direct at ourselves, the false beliefs about ourselves that our abusers can leave behind, and how important it is to take notice and root those beliefs out. Y'all better stop talking trash about yourselves. I mean it! New Webpage! https://www.podpage.com/finding-ok/ Support the show

My sister Chie and I discuss most survivor's worst case senario heading into jury duty: being interviewed for a sexual assault case. We share our own experiences with this process and share advice for preparing for and handling this should it happen to you. Tw/Cw: sexual assault, trauma, PTSD, Anxiety, abuse, the court system, mention of medical marijuana, mention of Eating Disorders, CPS, and stalking. Diamonds by Climbing PoeTree - heads up, this song might be triggering and make you cry. It...